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By: The evolution of breezy | Hope Dies Last

The evolution of breezy | Hope Dies Last — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 12:45:35 +0000

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By: Angela

Angela — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 00:39:12 +0000

I don’t have much hope either, anymore – for myself. I lost that, two years ago. I’m 36, and have never really been loved. I do hope for a different outcome for you, though. And I hope the ex gets kicked to the kerb, for being over forty and thinking that anyone would love *him*. What happens to karma and the three-fold law? It seems that the people who care the least, and treat people like hell, are rewarded.

By: The Evolution of Perspective | Hope Dies Last

The Evolution of Perspective | Hope Dies Last — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 14:27:15 +0000

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By: NoHope (NOPE)

NoHope (NOPE) — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 06:21:22 +0000

I find it hard to believe in love again. When 7 years of my life was a lie it sort of takes the fairy out of tale. I used to dream of love, marriage and children but now all I feel I can do is just exist. Why? I ask myself over and over. Why did he treat me this way? How could someone drag another to 40 and stab them in the heart? Just at 7 years when we were planning (or so I thought) a marriage he bails. Well it seems as if he hates me for my career success so this is the way he pays me back, let me reach 40, all the while pretending he loved me. One day out of the blue, after all I had done to help him be successful I find out he has been dating. Sad part is he pushed for premarital counseling and in the sessions I noticed he was rather negative in hopes the counselor would tell us to break it off. I would drive 2 hours to these sessions. At the beginning of one of them he disappears for awhile and I call him to let him know the counselor was ready for us. Finally he shows up with an attitude. Well to make a long story short, he was strolling around talking to the girl on his cell phone. Sadly as he made me feel guilty for being somewhat successful the girl he was seeing was even more career successful (MD/PhD)?? I just don’t see how someone can be that hateful. All those years (my childbearing time) wasted and now I have to face dating again with so much distrust. What do I do? I want children..I used to dream of a successful family much like my own with husband and kids but now I am left with wondering should I try invitro because it is so hard to believe I have time to play with (he took it all). My ex said the meanest things when I found out about his cheating, things like “no one will want you after 40″ and the worst “you have low self esteem, how could I want you”. I do not have low self esteem, just trusted and loved the wrong one. It has been 4 months since this happened and the hardest is over but the hurt of losing time still remains. He toyed with my heart …he is not with her but someone else. I hate him for doing this to me but I hate myself more for allowing myself to believe in love..

By: Bathwater

Bathwater — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 15:53:06 +0000

That is a generalization and unfortunately a trait I do not seem to have.

By: Kristin

Kristin — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 19:42:35 +0000

For every emotion I feel, there is a post I can reread and get strength from. My ex (the one I thought I’d get back together with) just got engaged to another. Even though we weren’t technically together and haven’t been for several years, I feel dumped, shocked, and sad. A beautiful dream is over. How do we move on from that? I’ve forgotten.

By: Kristin

Kristin — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 19:42:15 +0000

For every emotion I feel, there is a post I can reread and get strenght from. My ex (the one I thought I’d get back together with) just got engaged to another. Even though we weren’t technically together and haven’t been for several years, I feel dumped, shocked, and sad. A beautiful dream is over. How do we move on from that? I’ve forgotten.

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 08:32:29 +0000

Wow. Could it have been said any better? I think not. This is an incredible reflection on the process of “getting over” someone – I’ve been there a time or two and you put it so perfectly into words and feelings and emotions. I love it. Thank you for writing this.

By: Hope

Hope — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 17:35:52 +0000

Thanks Sami. I hope you reach that state soon. Although, to be honest, I think that until I fall in love again, it will be three steps forward two steps back kind of thing.

By: Hope

Hope — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 17:33:04 +0000

And they love you!