I heart men

I heart men

I make general and derogatory statements about men all the time.

Today, over coffee, I was on a rampage. When I paused for a moment, and listened to the words I was using, I felt like an idiot. I was being unfair. Sure, men can sometimes be weak. They can act in ways that disappoint me. They’re so rational that it drives me to be over-emotional.� But I don’t hate them. I kind of heart them. A lot.

I love them when…

…they’re wearing a pair of Converse sneakers.

…their jeans are slightly baggy and their boxers peek out.

…they are not afraid to smile back at me when I’m walking away.

…when they show emotion.

…they finally understand that in acknowledging weakness, they automatically become the strongest man in any room.

…their hair is short and spiky.

…they you use technical MAN words that I do not understand.

…they patiently explain them to me (But if they’re condescending about it, I hate them.)

…they wear layered t-shirts.

…they let me help them.

…they make me laugh by pretending their belly is their alter ego called ”Hans”.

…they do something right, they do it right.

When do you love men?

5 Responses to I heart men

nuttycow | June 8, 2010 at 4:15 pm | Reply

Because…
- they make me laugh
- I feel weak and pathetic next to them
- they know stuff I don’t (caveat this only works with men who are more intelligent than I am)
- they generally know how to change plugs and stuff
- they’re pretty :) (most of them)
amber | June 8, 2010 at 8:37 pm | Reply

When they wear ball caps. When they give you that look, the look that says they appreciate/love you. When they act all boyish and silly (play on the floor with the kids or dog, imitate cartoon characters). When they work outside with their shirts off.

Great post, Hope.
ashalah | June 8, 2010 at 10:22 pm | Reply

I love it when…

-their hair is a little messed up (especially if it’s curly)
-they hug me and I feel all small and enveloped by them
-they act silly just to make you smile
-they make something with their hands (like a garden, a picture frame, anything really.)
-they are passionate about something and get all fired up talking about it
-they smile at you across the room and you know it’s meant for you

Of course there’s more but that’s all I can think of now :)
DShan | June 9, 2010 at 2:35 am | Reply

As a hetero man, I’ll even take a stab.

I dig that men have such a hard time seeing themselves. We often simplify our lives, efficiently navigate life without lots of details impeding our ability to get things done or solve problems we care about, but ask us how we are feeling and we simply can’t figure that out.

We get things because we leave that complicated mess that is us on the backburner, and we have women around (thank god) to help us figure it out.

We base most of our relationships on humor, which I think makes the world a better place.

We default to yes, oftentimes. This can be good and bad but it makes life interesting for everyone involved.

And finally, we grow into a sense of responsibility that I think helps us crystalize a sense of identity, and that’s often when we’re best for the women who we’ll call ours forever. Up until that point we’re pretty much circus clowns trying to fit into a black tie charity ball.

:)
Ania | June 9, 2010 at 6:36 pm | Reply

Men… What a nice topic ;)

When they know what to do when I don’t.
When they open a jar with only one hand. I need to use both hands, rubber gloves and lots of strenght.
When they are spontaneous (“let’s go to the sea side!” and few hours later we are completely packed into car).
When they look fantastic in a suit (I belive that really sexy man always looks good in a suit).

I’ve been reading your blog more or less regularly for quite long time Hope but I have never given you a comment. I have no idea why. Let it be a virgin comment ;)

Take care!

Ania

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