Fathers

Posted on May 24, 2010 by Eleni Zoe| 8 Comments

Answer me this.

When did fathers in big butt cars and baby on board signs become sexy?

No seriously. When did this happen? It feels just like yesterday when the only thing hotter than a man driving solo in a sleek, German car was a man standing solo next to a sleek, German car.

Somehow, over the last two years, my taste buds have evolved. I don’t want the solo, stoic, man anymore. You know the one that doesn’t call when he says he will and doesn’t follow through with anything except disappointment. I want the responsible, relationship man. The guy that cares, that sticks to his word. The one that shows up on time and doesn’t leave me waiting.

I guess that’s exactly when fathers became sexy.

When I learned that the car, the hair, the clothes, the job, the 500 close friends, the connections to all the right people in all the right places (and some of the wrong ones), the money, the arrogance, the intelligence, the height, none of that has any value (or sex appeal) if it doesn’t come in a man that is responsible, decisive, protecting and caring.

Fathers became sexy when the word father and the word man became synonyms in my mind. All qualities that my version of father possesses are the qualities that my version of man possesses.

The kind of man that I imagine existed when that word was first uttered. The kind of man that makes a woman tell her friends, ‘You know the reason I like him? He’s a man.’ And all women, everywhere and anywhere, nod in sync in complete understanding.  No more words need to be used.  They  get it. And they’re a little jealous that she found it.

If only men knew how sexy being a man is to a woman.

Maybe then they’d choose to be one.

Before they became fathers.

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8 Responses to Fathers

  1. ashalah | May 25, 2010 at 2:51 am | Reply

    I want that too. I mean, I’m not ready for marriage, but I’m ready for someone who can be stable, supportive and just BE THERE FOR ME. Why is that so hard?! Instead I pick the unavailable boys, the boys who have a lot of emotional baggage…basically everything you stated above. I don’t care anymore how connected they are and who they’re connected with, I want them connected with ME on an emotional, mental and physical manner that is HEALTHY.

    The End.

    • Hope | May 25, 2010 at 1:21 pm | Reply

      Haha! The end, indeed.

      And you raised a good point. I think when men hear the word ‘responsible’ they immediately think we mean marriage.

      No, dude. I would just like to date a man. Full stop.

  2. Breeza | May 25, 2010 at 3:07 am | Reply

    Seriously amen. Being a man, that’s all we want!

  3. amber | May 25, 2010 at 5:43 am | Reply

    I know what you mean about wanting a caring, responsible man now instead of Mr. Sports Car. I used to go nuts for the distant, brooding guy with the cutting sense of humor (and, OK, a part of me still goes mmmm when faced with one). But now, at 28, I find myself drawn to the guy who keeps his word and does thoughtful things. And WANTS to be with me, and makes it obvious.

    :)

  4. jo | May 25, 2010 at 9:37 am | Reply

    i love your writing. and oh yes, being a man is hot to a woman.

  5. CAPow! | May 26, 2010 at 3:21 am | Reply

    awesome! this post is beautiful and so, so true!

  6. Miss A | May 26, 2010 at 5:26 am | Reply

    I blame global warming.

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