Comments on: On triangles

By: Angela

Angela — Sat, 09 Apr 2011 04:45:19 +0000

My sister is that girl. Men fall all over her; if any of them do the same to me, it hasn’t been obvious enough for me to notice, and at this point in my life? I admit to being jealous of her and a couple of other women who have that effect on men. I’m not talking about them eliciting the sexual interest I’ve garnered in the past.. I’m talking these men hitting crush-mode immediately, and then “fall in love” mode, soon after.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Sat, 24 Apr 2010 01:55:21 +0000

I’ve been in that situation more than I care to share here. My solution was to stop introducing my dates to my friends. Hey, it works.

By: Danielle

Danielle — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 00:28:39 +0000

I find it hard to believe that a guy I am interested in or just started seeing wouldn’t want my BFF, mostly because I see so many good qualities in her, why wouldn’t he?

They don’t get to meet for a long time…

By: GRSC

GRSC — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 21:53:23 +0000

I’ve had situations before when the guy, my best friend liked, had a thing for me. And, for someone who genuinely cares about their friends, trust me, it’s equally frustrating. Regardless of how attractive the guy is, or if there’s any sort of reciprocation, a girl should NEVER, EVER get with a guy her best friend liked FIRST! That should be the 11th commandament :)

By: StaceyParadise

StaceyParadise — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 17:22:45 +0000

Only one time.

A boy who I was completely infatuated with, but who only sometimes returned that sentiment (should have been my cue to RUN, RUN LIKE HELL), caught the eye of my very good girlfriend. And like your situation, they insisted I didn’t have to worry.

My friend lied to me for years about it and only just recently “accidentally” told me the truth of their encounter. And even though I’m now married (to another man, obviously) and insanely happy, I was a little angry.

Friends should know better!

By: Sophia K.

Sophia K. — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 17:21:54 +0000

Oh yes, I have been there too. At 16, I dated a guy for a year (he was 17) He was my first relationship, my first big teenage love. 10 months after our break-up and while I still wasn’t completely over him, he confessed that he was head over heels in love with my best friend, and, to her own shock and surprise, she realised she wasn’t feeling indifferent towards him either. It was a very tough situation for me, because, like you wrote, I knew her and loved her, knew that she deserved someone great. And I knew that my ex really loved her, and I knew they fit so good together, so much better than him and I. It hurt like hell, but I loved her, and I loved him, and I realised that I could not stand in the way of love, of their love. So I backed off and gave them my blessings. It took me a while before I could be around them without feeling a weight crushing my heart, but time and a wonderful new boyfriend healed the old wound. It wasn’t the only time something like that happened; I’ve had 2 guys I liked go for my sister (guy 1) and for a good friend of mine (guy 2) Btw, my best friend and my ex are no longer together; after five years of what appeared to everyone as the perfect relationship, they went out with a bang. Funny thing is, I was very sad when they broke up, and kinda mad at him too (like, “Ok dude, you hurt me, that’s ok, it happens, but how *dare* you break my friend’s heart??”) We’re still best friends and I don’t regret letting the past hurt go. As for the anger and resentment you feel towards her, it’s normal, but…if I were you, I’d try to rein it in. It’s not worth it to ruin a perfectly good friendship for a guy who may or may not be right for you.

By: Alexia

Alexia — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 14:45:54 +0000

Dude, I know. It’s OK, get angry. And I’ll try to keep my fingers away from my mouth. :)
(NOT ONLY DO I IRON FOR YOU, I EVEN USE SMILEY FACES!)

PS: Yes, that is exactly right: smitten. Le sigh.

By: Peter

Peter — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 13:21:04 +0000

Numerous times I’ve liked a girl, only to find out her best friend liked me.

By: Errant

Errant — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 11:42:08 +0000

well, I’ve never been in such a situation, but I can imagine how hard it is.

My advice : Be frank and open with your friends. When you like a guy, tell them that you like him a lot and you’re thinking you may make a cute couple and you think it’ll work with this guy ..

A true friend will never coz you such a pain after that and get close to him .. unless she’s not a real friend ..

By: Curvy Jones

Curvy Jones — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 11:12:50 +0000

Like you, I have beautiful friends. Most of them don’t live in the same city but when we get together I am most certainly the one they push aside to get to the “real package”. We just laugh about it but sometimes it’s just not funny.

They say I am ridiculous to not want to go out with them or travel to hang out with them…. But it’s no fun for me if the entire trip is watching guys hit on them, watching them blush and rebuff (cause it happens to them all the time) and having anyone I talk to instantly drop me when they see them. ‘hey, how you doing… Introduce me to ya friend over there…’

Blah.

Here, I go out alone. Men don’t meet my friends for awhile. I don’t share well, lol!