Comments on: That may be what I need, but this is what I want http://hope.gr/2010/02/19/want/ The Blog Mon, 06 Sep 2010 04:47:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: sdr http://hope.gr/2010/02/19/want/comment-page-1/#comment-5722 sdr Fri, 26 Feb 2010 21:01:02 +0000 http://hope.gr/?p=2089#comment-5722 it definitely is a choice to cross the line the second time. and i was ALWAYS the girl who said "i will never ever get with another girl's boyfriend". However, I did do it once, not long ago. He wasn't married, had no kids, was unhappy in his relationship. I felt guilty and I told him if he didn't want to be with her they should break up. I gave it a time limit...if he was still with her in a month I wouldn't see him anymore. 2 weeks later he broke up with her and never looked back. I know cheating is never the right thing to do, but sometimes it doesn't always end in you being the other woman or being used. It wasn't my idea of the fairytale beginning of a relationship, but my last relationship started with him cheating on his gf with me. We are in love, meant to be, perfect for each other, the loves of each others lives, etc etc. did it start out perfect? no. but that doesn't mean it can't end that way. it definitely is a choice to cross the line the second time. and i was ALWAYS the girl who said “i will never ever get with another girl’s boyfriend”. However, I did do it once, not long ago. He wasn’t married, had no kids, was unhappy in his relationship. I felt guilty and I told him if he didn’t want to be with her they should break up. I gave it a time limit…if he was still with her in a month I wouldn’t see him anymore. 2 weeks later he broke up with her and never looked back.

I know cheating is never the right thing to do, but sometimes it doesn’t always end in you being the other woman or being used. It wasn’t my idea of the fairytale beginning of a relationship, but my last relationship started with him cheating on his gf with me. We are in love, meant to be, perfect for each other, the loves of each others lives, etc etc. did it start out perfect? no. but that doesn’t mean it can’t end that way.

]]> By: StaceyParadise http://hope.gr/2010/02/19/want/comment-page-1/#comment-5685 StaceyParadise Tue, 23 Feb 2010 15:44:17 +0000 http://hope.gr/?p=2089#comment-5685 I needed to read this today. Especially this: "After you have crossed a line you feel you cannot go back to a time when you hadn’t. You cannot un-learn what you have learned and you cannot undo what has been done. Since you’re already going to hell, you figure ‘What the hell, I might as well carry on.’ Especially when you really want to. And then your mind will come up with all sorts of justifications to let you do it. ‘I deserve to be happy too.’ You ignore the little voice that replies, ‘Yes. But does it have to be at some other person’s expense?’" It cuts right to the core. I just, it just...life is so hard sometimes and all I can think about is running away and starting all over again. I needed to read this today. Especially this:

“After you have crossed a line you feel you cannot go back to a time when you hadn’t. You cannot un-learn what you have learned and you cannot undo what has been done. Since you’re already going to hell, you figure ‘What the hell, I might as well carry on.’ Especially when you really want to. And then your mind will come up with all sorts of justifications to let you do it. ‘I deserve to be happy too.’ You ignore the little voice that replies, ‘Yes. But does it have to be at some other person’s expense?’”

It cuts right to the core. I just, it just…life is so hard sometimes and all I can think about is running away and starting all over again.

]]> By: thinkingtoohard http://hope.gr/2010/02/19/want/comment-page-1/#comment-5679 thinkingtoohard Mon, 22 Feb 2010 20:03:08 +0000 http://hope.gr/?p=2089#comment-5679 Do it. You will learn more from the error than from the inevitable wishing you had. Do it. You will learn more from the error than from the inevitable wishing you had.

]]> By: Chelsea Talks Smack http://hope.gr/2010/02/19/want/comment-page-1/#comment-5672 Chelsea Talks Smack Sun, 21 Feb 2010 23:47:06 +0000 http://hope.gr/?p=2089#comment-5672 I aodre your writing. I aodre your writing.

]]> By: GRSC http://hope.gr/2010/02/19/want/comment-page-1/#comment-5669 GRSC Sun, 21 Feb 2010 11:47:27 +0000 http://hope.gr/?p=2089#comment-5669 I don't see much of a difference between wanting and needing. What you need easily becomes what you want and vice versa. That is the only justification possible for your question. Whichever way you try and look at it, I think our natural instinct to fulfill a want or a need will always prevail before conscience [or whatever else you can call it.] Everything's fair in love and in war, right? But I think that there is always a moment when we stop and say "I can do this, I can give into this, or I can resist it". There are the kind of people who give in to it, and the kind that resist it. Everything that comes through this blog to your readers suggests that you're not that kind of girl. Don't do it. I don’t see much of a difference between wanting and needing. What you need easily becomes what you want and vice versa. That is the only justification possible for your question. Whichever way you try and look at it, I think our natural instinct to fulfill a want or a need will always prevail before conscience [or whatever else you can call it.] Everything’s fair in love and in war, right? But I think that there is always a moment when we stop and say “I can do this, I can give into this, or I can resist it”. There are the kind of people who give in to it, and the kind that resist it. Everything that comes through this blog to your readers suggests that you’re not that kind of girl. Don’t do it.

]]> By: Rachael http://hope.gr/2010/02/19/want/comment-page-1/#comment-5664 Rachael Sat, 20 Feb 2010 15:47:43 +0000 http://hope.gr/?p=2089#comment-5664 This is a rough situation. It's hard to go against what you want. But, do you REALLY want this? I def. do not judge you...but I want you to consider how this will effect your own feelings in the end. You deserve better!! This is a rough situation. It’s hard to go against what you want. But, do you REALLY want this? I def. do not judge you…but I want you to consider how this will effect your own feelings in the end. You deserve better!!

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]]> By: TSG http://hope.gr/2010/02/19/want/comment-page-1/#comment-5658 TSG Sat, 20 Feb 2010 03:40:06 +0000 http://hope.gr/?p=2089#comment-5658 Don't do it. You'll just be the "other" girl. What does that say abt his character? You are actually going to let him have you AND her? And even if he did leave her for you, what's to say he won't leave you for someone else? Unless, what you want is a strictly physical relationship with no strings attached. Even than, you need to take his girlfriend into consideration since he clearly doesn't. Don't be the "other" woman. Don't be with a coward. You're worth far more than that. Or so I hope. Don’t do it. You’ll just be the “other” girl. What does that say abt his character? You are actually going to let him have you AND her? And even if he did leave her for you, what’s to say he won’t leave you for someone else?
Unless, what you want is a strictly physical relationship with no strings attached. Even than, you need to take his girlfriend into consideration since he clearly doesn’t. Don’t be the “other” woman. Don’t be with a coward.
You’re worth far more than that. Or so I hope.

]]> By: Danielle http://hope.gr/2010/02/19/want/comment-page-1/#comment-5654 Danielle Sat, 20 Feb 2010 00:59:04 +0000 http://hope.gr/?p=2089#comment-5654 It may be what you want right now, and I've been there, but you are also choosing to want to be "the piece on the side". Which in my opinion wasn't good enough for me, and is not good enough for you as well. If he crosses that line with you again, your "that girl", not relationship girl. I say, let him try to cross the line and get satisfaction in knowing that he wants you, but don't respond to his solicitations. It may be what you want right now, and I’ve been there, but you are also choosing to want to be “the piece on the side”. Which in my opinion wasn’t good enough for me, and is not good enough for you as well.

If he crosses that line with you again, your “that girl”, not relationship girl. I say, let him try to cross the line and get satisfaction in knowing that he wants you, but don’t respond to his solicitations.

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