First, the car incident: the same (almost exact) thing happened to me when I was 17… They never used my number either (I also included a $20 for paint – I felt that bad!) but I think if I hadn’t done something, I would have always felt guilty.

Second: Because I do try so hard to take responsibility of my actions (a result of the pain I’ve felt over the people who hurt me and never took responsibility), I tend to be that much more hurt when someone else doesn’t. My ex never appologized; for anything. It broke my heart and always left me feeling wounded and wondering why he didn’t care enough to just say “sorry.” I appologized a million times for the things I had done wrong; why couldn’t he just once?

So yes, I too want a man who can take responsibility for his actions. A man who can be a man.

And in regards to the comment you left me today: the menopause shots leave me feeling tired more than anything, and I too always feel like an old lady because all I want to do is sleep. I know my friends try to understand, but it is so hard for them to “get” when I used to be so energetic and up for anything… Being an old lady at 26 blows!

I’ve learnt a lot from you in such a short space of time and I don’t think I’ve ever thanked you for it.

So thank you.

A-FREAKING-MEN!!

I’ve been broken up with by a man who answered every time I called and asked ‘why?’ Showed up every time I said I just needed a hug or to see him one more time. He answered every tough question I had, more than once. He took responsibility for my tears.

What I found is that it hurts just as much either way. The only difference is that you are left with respect for one and not the other. But it still hurts.