Comments on: Tapestry

By: spunknsparkle

spunknsparkle — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 03:04:09 +0000

very well- said…
‘can relate too much. ‘can’t hold back the tears…

By: tiffany

tiffany — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 09:23:53 +0000

just wanna let you know that i really like reading your blog. it’s like reading about my experiences through the words of another person. thanks for letting me feel like im not alone :)

By: S.I.F.

S.I.F. — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 02:56:20 +0000

I just love this. It is poignant and honest and true.

My dating tapestry is made up of a hundred different and mismatched colors, and is full of holes and shotty workmanship. I should probably work on that…

By: Alexia

Alexia — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 11:20:02 +0000

‘I am the thread that refuses to unravel.’

Fucking love it.

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 07:30:04 +0000

You’re brave to be able to fail, pick yourself up and try again. Your brave to not be afraid of love even though shitty things happen. I’m not like that. I was in a relationship for 2 years with a guy who completely ripped apart my heart and my life, cheated on me, hit me, and then claimed to love me, and for a year and a half, I was afraid to get up and leave. And then one day, the new year came rolling round, and I refused to be THAT girl anymore. And I packed my bags, changed my number, my email, and moved to another country. One year later, I found someone new, and he pieced together my whole life again. Love takes time. The right guy takes time. And you’ll find him, or he’ll find you. I seriously believe it.

By: nic

nic — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 01:52:49 +0000

I couldn’t applaud you more for your words in this post. You know who you are and what you want. The men you’ve met weren’t it…they may have appeared to be, may have encouraged you to think so, but they weren’t. Realizing you don’t want to help “sew” that tapestry anymore is not only understandable but mature. It’s a level of self-realization that most people never achieve until after their divorce. See? I’m a bit (or a lot) jaded too.

There’s nothing wrong with saying “I’d rather be alone than settle for more of the same.” That’s where the start of 2009 found me. I had had enough. All I seemed to find were unattainable men. Men who played games emotionally, strung me along, put on an act of being more than they were. I too have always been the “available” one and it’s a heartbreaking and belittling process to go through.

I decided to opt out of the game they were playing and stopped looking. Then, a reader found me. Uncertain at first, I’ve been with him now for nearly a year, and in that time he’s shown me that all I’ve known is not all there will be for me.

After reading your post today, I feel certain that what you have known will also not be all you will ever know. There is attainability and honesty and commitment out there for you as well. Keep putting out who you are and it will come back to you.

By: Erin

Erin — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 16:54:43 +0000

Effing Google Reader keeps pulling up your old blog address. Having trouble getting it to recognize the new web addy. Just letting you know – I’ll keep working on it.

By: freckledk

freckledk — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 14:04:57 +0000

Very well said….and I can certainly relate. I just dated someone like your Mr. July, and am now smacking myself in the head for falling into that trap, yet again. But, oh well. There’s always something around the corner, for both of us. Fingers crossed that it’s a good one this time.