Comments on: Complex

By: nic

nic — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 13:32:40 +0000

Yes. I’m also in my late 20s, well actually 30 this June, and nothing is as I thought it would be. I’m still trying to decide if that’s a disappointment for me. Mostly, I want to tell myself that it’s about accepting the unknown nature of life. You’ve had that forced on you in heartbreaking ways it sounds like.

I hope that now that you see the pattern, you can break free of it. Some guys do stick around, they don’t “die” on you. You’ll find him. Or he will find you.

I wish, too, that we all had better guidance along the way. No one tells you when you’re 15, 22, or now 29 that it’s a PROCESS.

By: amber

amber — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 06:38:23 +0000

I think all girls dream that way – I know I did. I thought twenty, like you, and then twenty-five. Like you, now I just don’t know.

I love someone, so much, but the variables are impossible – and I’m no scientist, either.

By: HeartBlogger

HeartBlogger — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 03:41:21 +0000

I have felt the same way about love ever since my mom died. I was 20 years old and in a relationship that I thought was filled with LOVE. But when she died everything I had ever held onto seemed unrealistic and fragile…that holding onto it too deeply would just cause it to slip through my fingers without me knowing it. That boyfriend ended up cheating on my a few months later in an effort to get out of our relationship and away from me. Love seemed so out of my grasp after that.

Since then I think I’ve regained some sense of self, and and a little sense of love, but its evident that I am forever changed by the loss. Having lost the greatest love of all makes anything else worth loving not seem so important. I slough off the endings of relationships more easily and feel less effected by everything. Nothing will ever be as important as the whole that now remains.

Your reflections are very good, by the way. I enjoy writing myself and appreciate that eloquence with which you write…it’s beautiful! Happy New Year and I wish you many blessings :-)

By: Rachael

Rachael — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 15:30:59 +0000

“The sheer number of variables in the theory of love are limitless.”

This is so true. It will all fall into place when the time is right…it always does.

By: ashalah

ashalah — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 23:09:33 +0000

I wish this whole process of love and finding love were a lot easier. I look back on how my last real true relationship started and it was so….easy. Now it’s so friggin complicated I don’t even want to bother anymore. And I’m only 27!

In the end, you just have to keep up the hope that someday everything will fall into place and it won’t be so hard.

By: Mai

Mai — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 06:45:58 +0000

Like what all have said…. I also thought and assumed that love would be easy. But you see that’s the thing with assumptions, it is the mother of all screw-ups.

Don’t lose faith, Hope, the Universe sometimes work in mysterious ways. I, for one, is still hoping for that one great love.

Take care always. xoxo

By: Miss Devylish

Miss Devylish — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 21:33:56 +0000

Like ‘myself’, I think I’ve got about 10 yrs on you sugar. The love of my life and I broke up in April and my world fell apart. I learned a long time before him tho that love isn’t enough. I learned that they can still love you, be IN love w/ you and not be ready.. no matter how much they want it to be enough too.

I lost my dad and a boyfriend broke up w/ me w/in 2 mths of each other 10 yrs ago – this year, it happened all over again w/ my stepdad and this boyfriend. Watching my mom this time was harder. My stepdad was the love of her life. Seeing her dedication, every day at his bedside in the hospital – awful and truly inspiring at the same time.

I still have to have hope. I’m w/ Alexia and I’m trusting the Universe.. I mean, I thought I was going to marry my brother when I was little. Thank god that’s not true! ;) xo

By: Lpeg

Lpeg — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 21:22:29 +0000

I thought it would be easy too. It’s been nothing but heartache.

By: Alexia

Alexia — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 21:06:08 +0000

Hope dies last.
I know you’re tired.
I know that, according to Sex and the City, we have until our late thirties to fall in love.
I know that you’re 28.
I know that this means fuck all because, as mentioned, I know that you’re tired.

I also know that the only time we know we haven’t found love is on our death bed.

It will happen. Trust The Universe

By: Sarah

Sarah — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 20:05:18 +0000

When I was young I always thought I would be married at 22 because that was the age my mom got married. That turned out to be a bit of a shock. By 28 she had a kid and owned a home. Me? I’m still renting, much less anything else.