Comments on: Thinking http://hope.gr/2009/08/31/thinking-3/ The Blog Mon, 06 Sep 2010 04:47:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Alexia http://hope.gr/2009/08/31/thinking-3/comment-page-1/#comment-5174 Alexia Mon, 07 Sep 2009 17:34:41 +0000 http://hopedieslast.wordpress.com/?p=1423#comment-5174 Oops, I meant to use my uber cool nickname, 'Bambi'. And sometimes I wonder why people thought I was a dork at school. Oops, I meant to use my uber cool nickname, ‘Bambi’. And sometimes I wonder why people thought I was a dork at school.

]]> By: Alexia http://hope.gr/2009/08/31/thinking-3/comment-page-1/#comment-5173 Alexia Mon, 07 Sep 2009 17:33:04 +0000 http://hopedieslast.wordpress.com/?p=1423#comment-5173 In theory, obviously it's better to be loved and then dumped but we both know what I'm like in practice. I tried to set up a thingy here today but all the domain names I wanted were taken so I refrained. I figure it better be perfect because it's going to be around FOREVER... I guess it's kind of like choosing a tattoo... or a husband. In theory, obviously it’s better to be loved and then dumped but we both know what I’m like in practice.

I tried to set up a thingy here today but all the domain names I wanted were taken so I refrained. I figure it better be perfect because it’s going to be around FOREVER… I guess it’s kind of like choosing a tattoo… or a husband.

]]> By: amber http://hope.gr/2009/08/31/thinking-3/comment-page-1/#comment-5172 amber Sun, 06 Sep 2009 11:47:33 +0000 http://hopedieslast.wordpress.com/?p=1423#comment-5172 Just because he wasn't right for you (or you for him, as the case may be) doesn't mean you're not lovable. I've been loved and then dumped, and I personally think it's more painful to have everything laid out on the table and THEN be found wanting, than it is to be deemed not right for him to start with. If he doesn't want to get really involved, that it's usually something superficial that doesn't work for him, right? Whereas if he claims to love you and spends time learning everything about you...only to decide it won't work way late in the game...that's much, much worse. Just because he wasn’t right for you (or you for him, as the case may be) doesn’t mean you’re not lovable.

I’ve been loved and then dumped, and I personally think it’s more painful to have everything laid out on the table and THEN be found wanting, than it is to be deemed not right for him to start with. If he doesn’t want to get really involved, that it’s usually something superficial that doesn’t work for him, right?

Whereas if he claims to love you and spends time learning everything about you…only to decide it won’t work way late in the game…that’s much, much worse.

]]> By: france59 http://hope.gr/2009/08/31/thinking-3/comment-page-1/#comment-5171 france59 Fri, 04 Sep 2009 04:20:33 +0000 http://hopedieslast.wordpress.com/?p=1423#comment-5171 It appears I'm with the majority...loved, then dumped. Otherwise, you really aren't living life. Granted, I'd prefer loved for eternity, but I don't think most of us can get there before experiencing the tragic feelings of being dumped (or dumping someone). It makes that forever love just that much sweeter, because we've tasted the bitter version. It appears I’m with the majority…loved, then dumped. Otherwise, you really aren’t living life. Granted, I’d prefer loved for eternity, but I don’t think most of us can get there before experiencing the tragic feelings of being dumped (or dumping someone). It makes that forever love just that much sweeter, because we’ve tasted the bitter version.

]]> By: Jess http://hope.gr/2009/08/31/thinking-3/comment-page-1/#comment-5170 Jess Thu, 03 Sep 2009 15:12:27 +0000 http://hopedieslast.wordpress.com/?p=1423#comment-5170 Loved then dumped, definitely. But if he can never love you then he just isn't worth it. Even if it's hard to feel that way right now. Loved then dumped, definitely. But if he can never love you then he just isn’t worth it. Even if it’s hard to feel that way right now.

]]> By: IVORY'S INTELLECT http://hope.gr/2009/08/31/thinking-3/comment-page-1/#comment-5169 IVORY'S INTELLECT Wed, 02 Sep 2009 19:57:58 +0000 http://hopedieslast.wordpress.com/?p=1423#comment-5169 I'd rather love and lose. Never loving anyone sucks. You sit wondering and dreaming, drowning in a fantasy that may never be. At least experience gives you a dose of reality. I’d rather love and lose. Never loving anyone sucks. You sit wondering and dreaming, drowning in a fantasy that may never be. At least experience gives you a dose of reality.

]]> By: Shea http://hope.gr/2009/08/31/thinking-3/comment-page-1/#comment-5168 Shea Wed, 02 Sep 2009 02:46:15 +0000 http://hopedieslast.wordpress.com/?p=1423#comment-5168 I prefer neither. However, when I am the dump-er (vs. the dump-ee), I have a tendency to go with the "dump fast, dump early" before things get too emotionally involved. It's not warm and lovey, I grant you that. AND, it has led to numerous freak outs from various men. However, if they freak out at the EARLY stage, they would have REALLY freaked out later. You are lovable, Hope. However, perhaps this (ding dong) guy knew his own (lame) limitations, and decided to blame his decision on you vs. take ownership himself. And if so, he's a total turkey. I prefer neither. However, when I am the dump-er (vs. the dump-ee), I have a tendency to go with the “dump fast, dump early” before things get too emotionally involved.

It’s not warm and lovey, I grant you that. AND, it has led to numerous freak outs from various men. However, if they freak out at the EARLY stage, they would have REALLY freaked out later.

You are lovable, Hope. However, perhaps this (ding dong) guy knew his own (lame) limitations, and decided to blame his decision on you vs. take ownership himself.

And if so, he’s a total turkey.

]]> By: c http://hope.gr/2009/08/31/thinking-3/comment-page-1/#comment-5167 c Tue, 01 Sep 2009 18:48:51 +0000 http://hopedieslast.wordpress.com/?p=1423#comment-5167 loved then dumped. i'm heading for break up soon. it's tough and it sucks but we did our best. it's just not right anymore. loved then dumped. i’m heading for break up soon. it’s tough and it sucks but we did our best. it’s just not right anymore.

]]> By: Lpeg http://hope.gr/2009/08/31/thinking-3/comment-page-1/#comment-5166 Lpeg Tue, 01 Sep 2009 16:37:58 +0000 http://hopedieslast.wordpress.com/?p=1423#comment-5166 I like what Another Social Scientist said... I have to agree with her, because when I was too available and too vulnerable, the guys saw straight through that and it turned them off. I like what Another Social Scientist said… I have to agree with her, because when I was too available and too vulnerable, the guys saw straight through that and it turned them off.

]]> By: Peter DeWolf http://hope.gr/2009/08/31/thinking-3/comment-page-1/#comment-5165 Peter DeWolf Tue, 01 Sep 2009 15:35:50 +0000 http://hopedieslast.wordpress.com/?p=1423#comment-5165 Loved then dumped. Definitely. Loved, ravished frequently for a couple years, then dumped preferably. Loved then dumped.

Definitely.

Loved, ravished frequently for a couple years, then dumped preferably.

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