Weird
17 Nov
She wanted soup. I wanted soup too. More than that, I wanted to see him again. She didn’t need to twist my arm and I immediately dialed The Bar’s number (Brother-In-Law had conveniently left their card on the desk during the Rugby World Cup and no-one had thought to throw it out) and a man answered. My sister says I sounded posh. I maintain I sounded way too enthusiastic over soup.
“Hi there! I was wondering!…what is your soup! of the day!…erm today!?”
“Vegetable” the voice said not at all enthusiastically.
Click.
That was rude, I thought. It sounded like The Man but I wasn’t sure. I did not want to be presumptuous but boy, that was rude of him.
Three hours later we walked into The Bar. It was empty except for two girls happily chatting away in the far corner. We were still taking off our jackets when I felt him approach us from behind. I turned around,
Me: “Hi”
Him: “Was that you on the phone asking about soup earlier?”
Me: [So it was him] Oh yea! [nervous laugh]
Him: “I thought so.”
Me: [How did he know it was me?] “How did you know it was me?”
Him: “Lucky guess.” Flashes me something between a smile and a smirk.
Me: [Why did you hang up on me? That was rude. Say it, Hope. Say it, in a flirty pouty way.] Instead I giggle nervously and smile back.
Him: “What can I get you?”
We placed our drink order. He bought it over immediately and then two minutes later he was out the door never to return again. A different waiter took over.
“That was weird” I told the Best Friend.
“It was a little weird.”
We continued to analyze this teeny exchange for much longer than is probably necessary. But, in the absence of any other exciting developments in my dating life, this was huge. Like let’s discuss this for over half an hour huge.
I won’t bore you with the details but the gist of it was as follows.
Me: That was weird. Hundreds of people could have made that call. It’s not like we ordered soup and he then realized it was me. He realized before we even sat down. How does he know my voice? What does it all mean? Is it just weird? Or is it weird in an I-have-noticed-noticed you way? Am I reading into this too much? God, I’m pathetic.
Best Friend: Hundreds of people could have made that call. But, he connected the dots when he saw you and felt bad that he was so rude. He came up quickly to kind of make-up for it. It is weird that he came to take our drink order when the waiter was right there and he was obviously leaving. You’re not pathetic.
Me: I should post this on my blog. See what the internet thinks.
Also, it gives me a chance to talk about this for really much longer than is probably necessary. So, dear readers, what do you think?
A. Oh my god! He totally wants you! Sqeeeeeee!
B. It’s a little weird. But maybe you just have a distinctive voice. Nothing more, nothing less.
C. Yawn. What do we think about what? Nothing happened. And yes, you’re pathetic.
I agree with Best Friend – he obviously recognized your voice, felt bad for being rude then came over immediately to make contact with you. Maybe there is caller ID at the bar? And he knows your number and has memorized it, wanting to call you but has been too chicken thus far to do so and THAT is how he knew it was you?
Anyhow, I think it’s somewhere between A and B, but closer to A.
Can’t wait to hear more!
I thought about that. But, there’s no way he has my number, let alone have memorized it. After some more reflection, I think its also somewhere between A and B, but closer to B.
I think it’s weird. Don’t hate me, but I think it seems to me that it’s likely something BETWEEN A and B. (I hate making decisions, can you tell?)
At the very least, distinctive voice or not, you’ve made an impression on him, or he wouldn’t have even suspected that phone call was from you…making an impression is a very, very good thing.
Yes! There we go. That’s what I’ve been trying to articulate. He suspected it was me=made an impression=Hope’s happy! ;)
I maintain that if a guy likes you, he peruses you. So… I don’t know about this guy. Doesn’t seem like he’s done much.
True. I was just saying the same thing to a friend who says he has apparently made a move. I don’t see that.
I am all about overanalyzing.
And I’m gonna go with friend’s interpretation… though I think he could have said goodbye before he ended his shift. Hmmm….
It’s funny. Many people have mentioned the fact that he didn’t say goodbye. But, that did not strike me as strange at all. I was too busy thinking, “How did he know it was meeeee?” But now I am wondering, “Why didn’t he say goodbye?”
I COMPLETELY agree with Best Friend. He wouldn’t have been so rude if he had known. And Hope? With over analyzing? You’re in good company. Every girl I know is ALL ABOUT over analyzing.
Hopefully you get to see him again when he’s not rushing out the door, and then you can charm his pants off. Or just his shirt, whatever. ;-)
Ha! Charm his shirt off? Yes please.
Oh I welcome any opportunity to overanalyze. Remember when I introduced My Crazy last week? Yeah.
I agree with your BFF. He probably felt bad for being rude, and then wanted to clear the air right away. I wish he would have said goodbye, but I don’t think that’s a lost cause. Maybe he was just in a big rush and at least wanted to say hello before he left. I’d see what happens next time… maybe make some sort of move like… ask him out for coffee or a drink (not at his work).
I’m hesitant about asking him for coffee or such because I am not sure if he is actually available. Need to suss out that situation before I take any action. (i.e. I’m petrified to make such a move!)
I’ll vote “A”, but without the sqeeeee!
I don’t really sqeee myself. But it felt like a sqeee kind of moment. ;)
Hmmm, Hope. That is perplexing behavior. Just wondering–do you communicate in Greek or English with him? Does the nuance of certain sentiments perhaps get lost in translation?
Isn’t ‘Over-Analysis With Best Friend’ an incredible art form?!
Keep smiling! :-)
Yes! Over-Analysis With Best Friend is an art form! Happy you see it that way too. Also, we speak in English (his native tongue) so I don’t think anything is getting lost in translation. Unless, I’m far more Greek than I realize ;)
i think its very positive that he came over the minute you guys arrived.
the fact that he recognised you on the phone, is most definately very good, however he realised it and for whatever reason he mentioned it, it happend and that is always 5 points on my list.
as for why he left without saying anything?
maybe he isnt getting much from you to make a move forward, maybe he feels as though he will be doing too much if he had to constantly be on top of you.
maybe at the end of the day he was in a rush and didnt think about it.
it could be so much, just think though, that he is the one always approaching you. maybe you should do something about that!!
Hmm. I’m not sure I can pick a letter. Sorry, it’s the law student in me. We don’t get multiple choice. Only essay.
I think it’s weird. I mean, I’m totally thinking he’s noticed noticed you because hi? Why would he recognize your voice if he hadn’t? And also he made a point of coming over and speaking to you. Which also definitely indicates interest. I mean, if dude wasn’t interested at all, seems he would’ve just not said anything and gone ahead and left.
But, why did he not say goodbye or anything?
Either way, I agree that best friend overanalysis is a great hobby!
Sorry. I’m like, no help at all here. Happy weekend!
Like many other commenters (& you!), I am allll about overanalyzing! However, in your case I would have to go with choice A. It’s just a little too out of the ordinary, with him realizing what he did, then coming to talk to you about it, then taking the time to bring you drinks when he was on his way out. This is exciting! Please keep us updated =) & good luck
I was hoping I could bring a male perspective to this, but it’s a toughie.
If he disliked you, or was indifferent to you, he wouldn’t have bothered asking if it was you on the phone.
Also, we men are nuts.
I’m going to just ditto CDP. It seems like he tries, but then not saying goodbye? That’s confusing. Oh men.
Echoing Cindy and Brandy here.
Men are ridiculous sometimes. Very weird.
this is a tough one. i like to overanalyze everything, so i hear you on the half an hour discussion. lol.
i would say he might be a little interested, but i would let him make the first move. because if he is interested, he will. i promise :)
Has he even heard you speak? I think he definitely noticed you and was bummed that you would be coming in right when his shift was ending, and his bundle of confusion made him react rudely.
I guess. I mean, that could happen right?
But what about the soup? Was it a simple MacGuffin, destined to never be mentioned again?
ok sweetie, this is just my honest perception, so please dont’ be upset.
i think his reaction was a little weird. I’m from that camp that men are interested pursue you….so while yes, he wasn’t really doing that, he DID make a point to say he recognized your voice from the phone….but then why didn’t he say goodbye to you? i don’t know. i guess i’d have to see the whole interaction to make a judgemnet call.
wtf. men are weird. worse than women, i say.
keep us posted m’dear. :(
As recent events show, my judgment of male behavior is totally NOT to be trusted…
But I’m going to give my opinion anyway :)
I’m going to agree with pretty much everyone else that this interaction falls somewhere between A & B, possibly closer to B. Recognizing your voice is a good sign, but it could also just be a “that girl would make a good buddy” recognition as well.
I say lay low, see what happens. Maybe call about the soup again in a few days :)